So this is 40

A few weeks ago, we watched a movie called This is 40. It’s probably the funniest movie I have seen in a long time. Probably because of its appropriateness in terms of my turning 40 a few days afterwards. Whilst the movie is probably not everyone’s cup of tea (there is quite a lot of swearing and sexual reference) I literally had tears in my eyes from laughter throughout the 90 odd minutes. I liked the fact that the two lead characters, both about to turn 40, really did not give a damn about anything! We also watched it at a time when we really needed some comic relief: Having both taken some strain over illnesses and accidents in the family (Gary’s mom broke both her arms, and my father had a wound that just would not heal) And after a few disappointments surrounding the plans for my birthday (sometimes I still feel like an insecure teenager, unsure of where I fit in), it was great to laugh out loud at nonsense for an hour and a half.

But this post is not actually about that movie. (Although if you find yourself hanging about with nothing to do, do give it a watch. You probably want to wait till the kids are in bed though!)

This post is about that dreaded milestone: FORTY.

Just for the record, I wasn’t happy turning 30, never mind a full TEN years older! Aging is a weird thing. It’s a slow process that kind of just creeps up on you, and one day you look in the mirror and think “How did I get so OLD.” And then your five-year old asks you “why do you have stripes on your forehead mommy?” (referring to my, um, wrinkles!) which really tips you over the edge. I seem to have found myself in a weird head space: middle-age is not exactly a label I want to be sporting on my forehead. Then again, maybe it would hide the stripes? And while I am probably in OK shape for 40, both mentally and physically, I can’t say I feel young either.  My back injury is not helping the process, because I am always in pain.  Although I try to ignore it most days, it is very draining on my energy levels.

But enough of the wallowing in self-pity.

All of my friends that are already forty, tell me that forty is FABULOUS. That it’s the new THIRTY, that it’s the naughty forties. One of my friends said in a birthday text message: “Still young at heart and mature enough to enjoy life to the full at last”. While the jury is out on whether or not my forties will be fun, fabulous or naughty (I will let you know once I turn 50!) here are the things that I am thankful for at this milestone:

  • I have the best husband in the world.  He made me feel like the most special girl in the world on my birthday, and in fact does so every day. I am so lucky and grateful to have him in my life. (Sorry ladies, he is taken!)
  • I have two beautiful children who bring me a lot of joy and have shown me what love really means. They have taught me so much. And while I sometimes wish I had had kids a little younger, I would not change anything for the world.
  • I have a wonderful extended family … my two step-sons mean the world to me. It has been a pleasure and an honour being part of their lives for so long.
  • I have brilliant friends who are always there for me.
  • I really am happy. Well most of the time anyway.

It is said that “you are only as old as you feel”, so I am going to try my damnedest to feel 21 forever!

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Pearly whites

Alex was an early teether. At just over four months, the first two little pearly whites made their way through the gums causing much excitement amongst proud parents and grand-parents. (and then they came in two-by-two in rapid succession therafter!)

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About a month ago, one of those little babies started getting wobbly. I remember hearing somewhere that kids lose their first tooth at around six, but based on a few friends’ children of the same age, five seems to be the new six!

So on Tuesday afternoon, the little toothie finally wobbled its way to freedom. Alex has been fiddling with it for days now, and even asked me to buy a bag of apples. (According to Charlie and Lola eating an apple helps a wobbly tooth fall out! Well they weren’t far wrong it seems! Although the apple was consumed on Monday afternoon, it’s the thought that counts.)

The tooth fairy visited on Tuesday night and left a small bag of coins (Totalling R20) and a note saying thank you for the tooth. And fairy dust, of course!

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I speak for the trees!

The Lorax quickly became one of Alex’s favourite movies, and I can’t say I blame him, that little orange guy is super cute, and the music in the movie is great. I also love the overall message that the movie conveys about conservation and the repercussions of not looking after our planet. Another plus is that the movie is based on one of my favourite Dr Seuss books.

So the natural choice for his birthday party this year was, you guessed it, The Lorax! And it also coincided with the recycling theme that is being covered at school at the moment.

I am just grateful that Alex is not into Ben 10 or Spiderman, as those party themes are really over done. (I think we have been to at least 10 Spiderman parties this year.)

I had a lot of fun with this theme, from the Lorax cupcakes and yellow chocolate moustache lollipops for school, to the brown paper bag “please recycle” party packs and my piece-de-resistance Lorax inspired cake topped with sugar figurines and Truffula trees. And the more I make these fancy cakes, the more I love doing them!

We had the party at Canned Olive happy land which is a great outdoor venue with a huge jungle gym and plenty of space to run around. As luck would have it, the wind was blowing at gale force on the afternoon of his party, and when I picked up Alex from school he had a 39 degree temperature and was feeling pretty grim. But we couldn’t exactly cancel the party half an hour before it was about to start, so like in showbiz, the party must go on, and after a call to Daddy to bring some Neurofen syrup, he was feeling ok enough to play about an hour later.

By four o’clock, the wind settled down, and everyone had an absolute ball.

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happy birthday Alex

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